Where Are You From?
Manoush top | Cos cream denim culottes | Zara kitten heels | Staud bucket bag (c/o)
Despite the political situation and despite the fact that these two cities couldn’t look any more different, Doha and Dubai have something in common. They are both mainly made by expat communities.
You can find almost all the nationalities in these cities. And I think this is what makes Doha and Dubai so special.
The connection that people from all around the world creates together and how much you learn from cultures so different from yours it’s something that I’m so grateful to experience.
Unfortunately, with so many nationalities under the same “roof” a lot of stereotypes see the light. The question “where are you from?” get so different meanings. It can be genuine – and probably most of the time is – but it can also has the purpose to remind you that you have less rights because of the country written on your passport.
It’s such a sad thing. But it happens. It happens a lot of time.
I consider myself lucky since I never experienced to feel inadequate for the silly reason that I’m from a certain country. However, two weekends ago something happened that made me think.
Massimo and I were hanging out with friends. We had brunch at Aji at Vista Mare Club, on the Palm and then we moved to Barasti Beach Bar where we stayed till sunset. Few minutes before leaving, my husband just came close to me and he gave me first a kiss on cheek and then a super quick kiss on my lips.
Even faster than what my kiss was, a security guard rushed on us and not in the most polite way he said “No kisses here”.
If the episode would have ended like this I wouldn’t have thought to write a post. I would have understood. Theorically you can’t kiss in public in Dubai (same in Doha). But I thought that being in a place where people are almost naked in their teeny-tiny bikinis, where they serve alcohol and it’s full of drunken people, an innocent kiss between husband and wife was totally fine.
But what made me feel bad was the fact that the security guard asked us where we were from.
Exactly how our nationalities was relevant to the fact the kisses were not allowed? Why did he need to know where we were from? We said Italy and he walked away. But would it have made any difference if we had said a different country?